She had. To vent.

I'm responding to C's post http://bokumbop.blogspot.com/2007/08/i-have-to-vent.html about her SAHM friend who's really just doing the SAH part. It's hard to understand.

I'm with you C, I feel the heat of my envy when I encounter situations like this. I typically feel that way on bad days at the office - and less so on good days. If I don't have to work late and can pick up Garcon on time, I feel capable, successful at both, much better about working. If I'm stressed or late to pick up, everything about working is bad, evil, unfair. But that's just me - I'm pretty love-hate about work. I typically feel that way after a day with inconsiderate clients, impossible deadlines, snippy comments, whatever, but always on the days where I've done it to myself - I've given more to work and less to me/mine, and am picking up Garcon at 5:59 (last possible minute) instead of 5:14 (my preference). I'm trying really hard to manage my own tension about work/life imbalance by setting those limits of just saying no. And just leaving at 5pm.

On any day, I worry about child development or attachment to me...but sometimes, secretly, I feel good about going to the office. Like it's a little bit easier being away. And I do enjoy earning money because I am good at my job and take satisfaction about my income contribution and not having to pinch pennies.

This comment, I'm realizing, is more about my own rationalization of working - that it's ok if a, b, or c happen. If the worst-case day (d) happens, then the evening goes south in a big way. I pick a fight with B, about money, happiness, child development, etc.

But back to your post, C. I know people like her, and they chose that lifestyle for a reason. And I chose mine, and I gravitate more and more to women who work great jobs and get the working lifestyle. They're more like me, and frankly, easier to relate to. I have no idea what to say to someone like that, honestly. FULL TIME care? I'm surprised the husband went for that.

Who knows - maybe she'll be less relevant to her husband the longer she stays home alone. It all sounds very boring. Even as I daydream about being home with Garcon, going to the pool, whatever, I wonder if I could do it full time. I think I just need people around me too much. Garcon is great company, and I can't love on him and squeeze him enough. But until he starts talking, hanging with Garcon + another mom/kid pair sounds like much more fun.

As far as I'm concerned, you can vent here however you damn well please. :D

This is the momosphere. I have to be diplomatic all day to clients. If we couldn't vent and be judgmental here, where would we?